What is your psychological state?

We all live life with different and shifting psychological states. You can see a person fully confident, relaxed, happy and centred. While you find others stuck, depressed and repeatedly talking about the same cycle again and again. This only shows the current psychological state you are at.

In reality, you can’t predict or assume the psychological states of your loved ones except yours. Sometimes you wonder. I called my friend several times. She didn’t bother to call me back or text me. Well the problem is you never know what the other person is going through. You can never assume or predict. We are good at putting our labels or judgments on the other person but forgetting the different psychological states we are at.

Another scenario is when you find a person who is more bound to home and routine rather than going out and explore life adventures. It is not that simple and straightforward to blame a person or judge him or her for the behaviours. If you understand and become aware of the psychological states of people, you would develop empathy and understanding towards them with less judgment.

I see an increased awareness about this topic in our environment. In hospitals and schools, you see individuals realize the connection between the symptoms someone is facing and the psychological condition he or she is going through.

At the end, when you catch yourself criticizing, judging or mentally blaming people, just refer back to their psychological state. What are they going through emotionally and mentally? Are they ready psychologically to meet you where you are at now? If you and the other person are at different psychological states, what actions or decisions you think the two of you would take? Remember it is not your job to fix the other person’s psychological state. You are not their therapy or counsellor. But you need to develop awareness and understanding about it in order to be able to continue living with each other with less struggle and resistance.