What happens at work, stays there.

Many have got this habit of dragging whatever happens at work to home and family conversations. It is like when you are done with work and arrive back home, the first thing you do is: This happened at work. My boss said this. The work was overwhelming. Several continuous tasks at the same time. Lots of pressure and workload. And on and on and on.

I think this is one of the factors that weakens the intimacy of any relationship. Conversations don’t just include the work/career topic. They include other interesting topics too like: How was your day? What are you up to for the evening? What do you want us to do tonight? What plans can we have for the weekend? Shall we do something together to suppress the work pressure?

It is so unfair to make all our life experiences about work and career. There is more to life than just work. What about our hobbies? Interests? Self-care routines? Quality time with ourselves and / or our loved ones? Relationships? Personal and professional development? Spirituality? Health? Aren’t these worth our attention?

It can be tempting to talk about work and express every detail that happened. Especially when you are emotionally triggered and just want to empty whatever tensions inside you. But remember the other person you talk to also has feelings, likes, dislikes, desires and interests. The world is not only about you but others have also got their thoughts and interesting inner worlds that need to be invited and welcomed.