How to love again?
It is tricky to live in a world where majority don’t trust each other and distanced and isolated from each other. A question that pops in my head sometimes is: How to love and trust again in such a context?
We want to live life peacefully, wholeheartedly and simply. We love to come together with full acceptance and open hearts. But when you got used to this habit of distance, isolation and closing off, it becomes hard.
The world we live in at the moment makes me laugh sometimes. when you are wealthy, healthy and strong, you see people attracted to you and come to you often. But when you are broke, weak and sick, you find people escape you and just not interested.
What a materialistic world we live in. Most of the focus is put on things, appearance, money, career, success, fame and attention. When you meet someone for the first time, don’t be surprised when you are asked: What do you do for a living? It is often the achieving, doing and getting that get the talking about. But other areas like spirituality, genuine living, hobbies and what actually makes a person happy and centred from the inside out, these areas are rarely talked about.
In such a context, this question: How to love again, becomes even more difficult to answer. How can we love again with the fullness of our hearts and souls? How can we open our hearts and minds and detengle the side effects caused by the environment around us?
This is possible if we start doing it to ourselves first. It is always what you do internally first. Then the outward love becomes easy and simple. How do you approach yourself? What is your internal talk? What do you tell yourself daily? If you did a mistake, how do you approach yourself? Do you have aspirations and dreams of your future life? What care and attention do you give yourself? How you take care of your daily needs physically, mentally, emotionally and other needs?
I remember this recite from the Holy Book of Quran when Allah points to this fact: You get what you have inside yourselves. Pay attention to the inside of you. You internal dialogue. Your thoughts. Your feelings. What is going on inside you. And then the remaining things in your outside world would automatically follow.
Still I suffer to answer this question. But continuous processing, reflecting and thinking from different perspectives can bring you closer to the answer.