How to know yourself in a conversation?

When talking and having that conversation, you see yourself lost in the conditioning, in your belief system, in the should and shouldn't. When this happens, it is difficult to know yourself better in the conversation.

So if that is the case, how can you know yourself better? Well first reflect on the topics that most interest you. What do you like talking about? What conversation topics that make you lose track of time? What gets your attention straightaway?

Second, when having any conversation, observe objectively your internal thoughts and emotions. What is going on inside your mind and heart? How do you feel in that conversation? Can you open up freely or you need to keep a distance?

Third is your personal approach towards the conversation itself. How do you perceive the conversation? What internal philosophies you developed about it?

Doing this quick reflective process with yourself would give you a better idea where you stand in the conversation, what are your beliefs and values towards it and what opens you up and what shrinks you. Eventually you would arrive a spot where you would make your personal choice about the conversation that most resonates with you and how you would like to see yourself in the conversation.