How to be OK with being alone?

There are many myths about being alone. Some perceive it as something wrong and not acceptable. Others think it causes abandonment and being left out.

My memory with being alone has got interesting stages. The first stage I remember is in childhood, around 6 to 7 years old when I was alone, this thought sneaked in: You are alone. You will be lonely. No one is here for you. You will be lost. You will be left out.

Then later across the years, the aloneness was suppressed with addiction to study and work hard. I thought when you study and prove yourself, you would be accepted, fit in and never be alone.

Then with the career started, the same dilemma was applied too. Work hard. Do your best and you would find your place in the mess.

After 12 years of ignoring and suppressing the aloneness, I faced life events which forcefully put me in this state with no control from my side like facing a rare disease (that my son has) and being stuck financially. These events have a divine message which say: Now you are literally alone. Are you still sure there is a problem with being alone? What if getting moments to be alone is the best thing that could ever happen to you? What if being alone actually tell you the truth about yourself, others and life? What if being alone is in reality an empowering and inspiring act to get to know yourself in this messy world and what is it that you truly want?

Now after several reflections and mental processing, I realized its ok to be alone. There is no harm. It is only a myth we picked along the way when people say: How come she lives alone? How can she handle it? She needs therapy. Or she is not normal, different and not like us. It is ok not to fit to other people expectations. Its fine to be you as you are without shaping yourself to meet others’ thoughts and beleifs.

At the end, look at you. You were born alone and you would die alone. So why resist? Take it as a learning process. See it as a chance to grow and transform. Perceive it as an advanture to explore and experience life in all its ups and downs.

All the best with your alone moments.