Declutter, Declutter & Declutter!

Sometimes when you are overwhelmed and filled with stresses and life pressure, the best thing you can do is declutter.

Decluttering is an act of self love. It gives you assurance and validation of what matter to you in the moment. It also gives you a sense of relief and space for your mental health recovery.

So if you are in a spot where you just feel stressed and filled with never ending to-do-lists, do these practices:

1- Declutter your daily to-do-list. Reprioritize it. Remove the ones that you don’t want to do and keep the ones that are most important to you.

2- Declutter your conversations. Sometimes we are so generous with the people around us and give the best we can until we crush. To declutter your daily talks, check what conversations you have? What is the focus of those conversations? Do they fill you up or shrink you? What interests you mostly?

3- Declutter your availability. Probably you think you need to be available to help, assist, fill the gap, keep the peace and make people around you feel comfortable. Declutter that. You are not responsible for other people thoughts or feelings.

4- Declutter your niceness. With the society and culture conditioning, you learned to be nice, polite and accommodating. You assume you need to check your email messages and reply on the spot. You believe if you miss any communication, that would make a person feel bad, ignored or rejected. Again, that is not your responsibility. People have the right to think in whatever way they wish to. And you are not responsible to manipulate their thoughts and or feelings.

5- Declutter your overstimulated brain. If you catch yourself being pulled toward your phone, TV, laptop, fixing other people problems, interfering with things that don’t concern you and jumping to situations to save the day and be a hero, just pause for a moment. What are you doing? What is your intention? What is triggering you? What your mind is trying to do? Just pause, observe and reflect.

At the end, this is a lifetime practice. It is worth doing if you need to recover and collect yourself all together. Remember, it is you who makes the choice and not others. It is your sole responsibility to check on your daily thoughts, emotions and behaviours. And one of the best thing anyone can do is the inner work with yourself. That is one of the most difficult task there is but its outcomes are pricelessly epic.