Are You in Your Mind or in Another Person’s Mind?

This is a question I like asking myself often because I started with this habit from a very young age.

What the other person thinks? How the other person feels? What the other person wants? This is one of the mental addictions that takes time, consistency and patience to heal from.

When you ask yourself this: Are you in your mind or in the other person’s mind, you question yourself. What are you doing? Why is it always the other person? Is their something wrong with you? Is there really such a thing called someone inferior or superior to you?

A lot of fear boil up here like fear of rejection, abandonment, being alone, judgment/criticism, being laughed at or humiliated and so on.

Then I remember the many recites from the Holy Book of Quran when Allah reminds us of who we really are, how we were created, how weak, vulnerable and powerless we are and the real purpose and meaning behind our existence in this earth hotel.

During this reflective process, I find out what matters and what doesn’t. Being in other people heads is just an unnecessary task we place on our shoulders. It removes our authenticity and truth in the moment. It puts fake masks in the human interactions. It also leads the person to live an unhappy and depressing life.