Why hide?

There are several situations that force someone to hide in the comfortable bubble. They could be a past scenario that traumatized you, an illusion you believed, a story you tell yourself daily or probably the environment that just doesn’t suit your preference and taste.

The typical examples where you find people hiding are at work, during meetings, when interacting with friends or maybe even at home. But why we hide? What is it we are hiding? What we hide from? Those are compassionate questions that remove the blame and judging and encourage someone to open up and get to the roots.

It is sad to face a past experience where you had no information about and was totally emotionally vulnerable and exposed to it. For example, you were young. You were in a context where the judging and blaming were straightforward and readily available on the spot. You didn’t know what was it. You just saw it. You experienced it. You took it in. You beleived it was the only way to live. So you shaped yourself to fit that context. You protected yourself. You fit in. You obeyed. You made sure you did what you were told. You hide and didn’t expose yourself much. Why? Because you experienced the pain of being judged and looked at. You don’t want to experience it again.

That is only one example of how a past experience can lead a person to hiding and isolating today. You can think of many examples too.

The impacts of this if not processed and reflected upon regularly are huge. It can affect your career if you want to change or try a new path, your relationships if you want to have conversations or express conflicts, your personal and professional development if you want to work on yourself and many other areas too.

Your personal reasons could be: you don’t want to be judged. You avoid rejection. You seek for perfection. You lost hope in human interaction. Or you are just so traumatized and don’t want to look at the inside of you anymore. It is just too much for you to handle. There could be many reasons you may think of.

But how this question can actually help you in the long-run? Well it is simple. The more awareness you develop, the more clarity you get of your internal world. And the more clear to you your thought processes, the more ideas and out-of-the-box thinking would generate for you.

It is not easy to be doing a habit for majority of your lifetime and suddanly you realize it doesn’t work for you and you need to change. There is a reflection and processing period that needs to happen before you just jump to the other side.

So keep asking the question. Continue working with yourself. Do this with an open and curios mind. Be open to possibilities with regards to human interaction. Your thoughts and behaviors are not fixed. No matter where you live and what culture set-up you are put in, it is ok. You are not alone. You are accompanied by his divinity, angles, blessings and ever lasting love.