When you say nothing at all!

There is this song I like hearing which is: When you say nothing at all. We live in a current world where people are so influenced by words, messages, calling and chatting. But when it comes to saying nothing, you hear comments like: Where are you? Where have you been? Why you are so quite? What’s wrong with you?

Don’t you think that silence can be interpreted positively too? When you say nothing, it doesn’t always mean bad or ignorance or avoidance. Sometimes it carries meanings that reflect something far more deeper than what you think.

Behind the silence, you may find acceptance of what is and presence, being just yourself without manipulations or pretending, doing our own routines and living life normally or probably processing our psychological wounds in our preferred ways possible.

Because of the life set-up we live where you see people glued to their phones, hypnotized into their screens and disconnected from the world around them, this makes it even harder to relate to silence and being present.

I think this works really well when you cross through tough situations in life like losing a job, going through a financial crisis, remembering your loved one or suffering from an illness. When you say nothing in those type of scenarios, you would see the situation passing by like the clouds clearing. The tight knot of that life event starts to loosen up and slowly gets released.

In such context, saying nothing means reducing the commenting, judging, blaming and interpreting the situation. Those actually make the situation even worse and more complicated.

Of course I can’t deny our human need to express ourselves at times when you have conversations with each other, when you meet people you didn’t connect with for long time, or when your chest is overflowing with hardships and pain. That context definitely requires you to express and get it all out in the suitable place, time and with the preferred people as well.

I write this post because I have a very long history of engaging with silence, presence and quietness. It is just a way of living, reflecting and contemplating. This is especially true for people with sensitive characters who perceive life with more depth and meaning.

So the next time you hear comments like: Why didn’t you tell me, why don’t you call me regularly, you are so quite. Remember it is ok. It is not you to fix and it is not them to fix also. This is just life and this is how we have been created, different, individualized and unique in our own ways of thinking, feeling and perceiving. What matters is how we come together as one even with our human differences and individuality. How we would connect with each other while appreciating our seperate identities. How we see each other not just through the mind filter but through our hearts and souls too.