How to have meaningful connections with people?

We were brought up in such away not trusting each other, not knowing how to really connect, looking at each other through the mind filter excluding the heart and soul and just distanced and isolated from each other.

Sometimes this question comes up: how can you really connect meaningfully with others around you? The meaningful connection is where you connect on a deeper level letting go of your ego expectations like judging, blaming and commenting. It also means you connect with others knowing our human differences, the psychological states we are at and openly accepting whatever comes with an open heart.

Interestingly, there is this amazing magic in the meaningful connections. When you connect with a person openly and genuinely with full acceptance and wholeheartedly, you see the misunderstandings resolve so quickly. You find the tensions and stresses just come and go. You realize the acceptance shifts the person from resistance to allowing. It is loving to think about the human connections in different ways.

After all this, you may wonder: So how can I connect on a deeper level with people around me?

First of all, realize that your mind is a tool given to you for a purpose. Don’t believe whatever it says. The mental manipulations such as stay in your comfortable bubble, avoid risk, don’t dare, don’t open up and remain small and invisible. All these are mental tricks to make you limited and restricted.

Second, appreciate your humanness and vulnerability. I know many cases we avoid the human interaction because we don’t want to seem like weak and not enough. However we miss the point here. Actually using our humanity and weaknesses to our advantage can unlock you and clarify the misunderstandings you usually have with the other person. For instance you think: I don’t want to tell her. She will get upset or reject my idea. Instead you say: I have got this idea I have been thinking to share it with you. I am not sure whether you would like it or not, but here is the idea.

Third, there is no harm if you and the other person are at different psychological states during the human interaction. If you are flexible and open to change and the other person is not, it is ok. We are not in a position to manipulate or fix the other person’s state. What matters is having the authentic connection, open up, share and with curiosity accept whatever comes out of the other person.

Finally, beneath the meaningful connections, you find the mental triggers, the emotional wounds and probably pain and trauma. That is usually expected in most cases. But being aware of them, understand them and connect with the other person anyway, that would uplift the possibility of having that deep purposeful connection. I wish for every person to try it, test it and see for yourself the wonders and magic coming out of it.