What is important to them is not important to you!

There is always a shift in priorities in a person’s life. Earlier you thought what is important to them is also important to you. But later in life when you cross through several life events, you realize your individual need to shift your priorities and make a change.

Earlier it was other people thoughts and feelings. Now it is your own psychological needs. Before it was accommodating the system and environment expectations. Now it is creating your own terms and values.

Then comes the self-doubt sometimes. What if I lose myself in this mess? What if I don’t know myself anymore? What if I lose every bit of meaning I ever created? What if I remain alone and lonely by doing this? What if I fail and break? These are normal questions that would often step into your mind when you prioritize and separate your needs from others.

The peer pressure, family pressure and also the work culture pressure are no joke. It can affect a person’s internal wellbeing if he or she doesn’t regularly take care of their psychological needs. The environment around us can be so harsh on us. It makes you feel you are nothing. It looks down at you and humiliates you. It wants you to do the same, be the same, remain the same and accommodate its needs.

Especially when you start to create your own individual sense of yourself, your needs, dreams and aspirations, you would see people around you shocked, surprised, don’t understand you, can’t make sense of you and just can’t accept you. That is also very normal.

We currently live in a world set-up where the humanity is striped away. The freedom of speech and personal expression is suppressed and not welcomed. The psychological needs are just ignored. In such a context, it becomes even more important to prioritize and shift the importance level of areas in your life to protect yourself and create your own psychological shield.

So after all this, what do you think of your priority list? What matters to you most today? Don’t lose yourself in this messy world. Believe in yourself. Have dignity and self-respect. No matter what happened, you do matter. Your opinions are important. And it is only you who creates the internal environment, terms, values and tasks that matter to you the most.