Struggling to delegate? Read this!

One of my old time struggles is allowing people to help me in whatever situation I face. I always tell myself: I do it better. I do it faster. They will stumble when I allow them to do it. I know better. And on and on the ego continues.

But then I notice this mindset keeps you locked in one place. It limits your time for your self-care. It easily builds up your mental tension and stress. Also it limits your communication, opening up and vulnerability with others because you think you know better. It reduces the number of options available for you because you only believe it is you who can do the job well.

The perfectionist character contributes a lot to this dilemma as well. When you think others are not capable as you and you strive to make the job perfect and complete, then you would struggle a lot to let go. The belief that others are not good as you, the high expectation bar you put on the tasks, the need to control, the lack of trust in others and the anxiety that things could go wrong when you delegate. All these affect your ability to delegate.

Yes we all have got different capability levels. Some are fast. Others are slow. Some are technical. Others are theoretical. Some are outreaching. Others are introvert. We all are made up of different characters and talents. But that need not stop us from working together and allowing the exchange of energy. You could be good at following up and your other half is good at finding the missing piece. You could be efficient at networking and your best friend is better at resolving arguments. Each one of us is strong at specific things. Maybe we could utilize that to our advantage too instead of doing it all ourselves.

The ego can often mislead our thoughts and actions. It comes in different ways like: You are the best in this. If you don’t do it, it will never get done. No body does it like you. You are the best in this. It is only you who does it better. And on and on the mental pattern goes. Look at this pattern objectively and from a distance. Don’t beleive whatever it says. Question it. Challenge it. Work with it. And finally see for yourself the truth behind it.