How to Balance Your Giving and Receiving?
If you are an overly nice and pleasing person, you might struggle with balancing between giving and receiving.
I understand the origin and feelings of nice people because I have been there before and till today I am detangling and processing its side effects.
It is ok to be nice and pleasing but if you are not aware of it, it can put you in a tight mental box where you are expected to give, be generous, please, accommodate, swallow and suppress.
It is an exchange of energetic vibration you are sending out and signalling: You are not enough unless you give. You are not worth it unless you do what you are supposed to do. You don’t trust the energy higher than you and you believe in controlling and manipulating others.
Coming to the other side which is receiving, what is it? How can we receive wholeheartedly and openly?
Well receiving means to open your heart, soul and mind to accept and receive the precious gifts coming your way. It comes in different forms like a free cup of tea in a shop, an in-depth and intimate conversation with your loved ones, quality bonding time spent with kids or a gift from your best friend.
The tricky part here is you hesitating to receive because of whatever old beliefs and myths you were taught to believe.
Let us say for example, you think you are a responsible person. You gotta satisfy and fulfill your multiple roles. How could you recieve if you didn’t give enough. You gotta give, sacrifice and keep your desires, needs and wants last.
More interestingly, the tendency to give more than receive creates a mental blind. You don’t know your rights anymore. You forget what you are entitled to receive. At the end, you end up frustrated, resentful, angry and depressed.
This is how an old unchecked and unvisited belief affect your actions and behaviours today.
When it comes to this context, I always like to remember this recite from the Holy Book of Quran when Allah encourages us to balance our giving and taking or otherwise we would end up frustrated and regretting.
Being aware of this mental habit is the first step towards positive change and transformation. Don’t give up on yourself. Don’t be hard on yourself. Take it slowly and gradually one baby step at a time. And with patience, faith, hope and belief you would eventually find yourself reaching the other side strong, bold, brave and proud.