Closeness in Relationships
Life is a mixture of many things like family responsibilities, kids upbringing, finances, day to day living, extended family tasks and others. Those tasks can interrupt or affect the closeness in your relationship with your loved ones.
It breaks my heart to witness a couple barely meet each other, rarely talk and just live life and swallow that emotional gap. But how can you retrieve the closeness and intimacy in the relationship?
Firstly, get to know your inner perspective towards closeness in the relationship. What does it mean for you? Many think if both the persons fulfill their tasks and obligations towards each other, that’s it. Others believe it is not necessary or it doesn’t exist in their personal vocabulary. This often starts from your early foundation and how that shaped your perspectives today.
Second, open your mind towards the possibility in the relationship. Relationships are not fixed. They have ups and downs. They can be revised and readjusted. Also they can start to vibrate with liveliness and energy again if both the persons are open to it.
Third, consider your individual and separate needs in the relationship. There is this myth people believe which is a couple needs to be same and similar in every character, personal attributes, emotions and mental approaches. Actually that’s not the case. Diversity in the relationship can also create a spark of thrill and adventure. The worst thing that can happen in any relationship is boredom, routine and deadness.
Fourth, normally in our busy schedules there are those minor gaps. They could be when you are in the car driving to work, when you do grocery shopping, when having meals at home, or other gaps you have. Take advantage of those small gaps. Utilize them fully to reconnect. Use them to catch up and reduce that emotional distance. Even during moments of anger, frustration, depression and sadness, those minor gaps can actually open doors for you to get to know each other’s mental and emotional status regularly.
At the end, I can’t say it is easy or quick to retreive closeness in a relationship. At many times you need to overcome a lot of your ego and personal beleive system to start opening up to the idea. Take your time doing this. This is a life time process but its outcome is worth the efforts and energy.