Back to Life

I am not sure who could understand this post, but don’t you think you cross some situations where your life was taken away from you? Your routines and daily activities? Once that situation passes by, you go back to your normal day to day living.

This is typical for someone in maternity leave, someone admitted in hospital for a while or someone caring for a sick family member for a period of time. It feels like you are in a cave. You have nothing to do except that one thing, whatever it is. It is exhausting at times. Sometimes it brings frustration and depression moments.

But also it brings interesting moments to reflect on life in general and do your private contemplations. The problem is our minds just like the comfort, the status quo and doing the same thing. When that is taken away, it complains, blames, judges and critics.

When you are done with whatever task and now you need to get back to your life, you wonder: What are the daily activities I need to keep in mind? How can I organize myself? How to keep things simple, minimum and efficient? You see people doing, doing and doing. But they are missing the point. It is not the quantity. It is the quality of what you do. If you keep doing but neglect the quality, you would end up unfulfilled and empty inside.

When I am back to life, I like to appreciate the blessings we already have. For example, from spending time alone with my son in Türkiye, we are back home reunited with the family. From depending on taxis and public transportation, now we get to use our private cars to go wherever we need to go. From babysitting and time spent in hotel, hospital and touring the city, now back to career life preparing for classes and performing in front of audiences. It is interesting to see your life switch from one phase to another.

Another takeaway when you are back to life is take the wisdoms and lessons from your previous experience. How was it when you were alone with your child abroad? What are the sweet and sour moments of your experience? Using the big picture thinking, what are the benefits of this experience to all involved? What are the little blessings you remember happened but had a great impact on you? What were the moments that affected you but made you stronger and more resilient at the same time? From whatever happened, what did you learn from it and how did it make you grow to a better person?

At the end, reflecting on your previous experiences and moving on to your presence is an act of self-love and self-sooth. It grounds you and brings you back to your centre.