Attached but live detached!

Attachments are neurological and physiological. Our bodies are built with the need to attach. When we were born, we had no idea of our role and purpose of our existence here. We had to attach to our parents or our caregivers. Attachments were the beginning of anyone’s life. Attach to your family, or extended family or the existing culture so that you know you have a place in your tribe to belong and to relate to.

Later, when life goes on, perspectives and life philosophies change and shift. You realize that attachments sometimes undermine you instead of inspire you. For example, being attached to an attitude of people pleasing used to be helpful in the past to survive a childhood or move on in school. But later in life, you find out that attachment keeps you stuck in one place and needs to be revisited and questioned.

Some people view life as a necessity, as something to protect, to be cautious of and attached to. But then, the attachment leads to anxiety, stress, excessive worries and sometimes could lead to depression and mental illness. We all can’t deny our attachments. But checking them regularly, reflecting on them and questioning them can help us understand the big picture and not rush to take quick decisions.

Understanding our attachments and learning to live detached is a life long skill. Our forms, our personalities and our life expression are there. Perceiving them from a distance and a quite place can lead to a smooth natural flow of life events taking place with less resistance and struggle from our side.