You are You and Me is Me!

We live in a world where you see people use multi-type of thinking. You think of what you think. You think of what others think. You also relate what you think to what others think and make manipulations.

That removes our individuality. It takes away our uniqueness. It makes us all average in what we do and how we choose to contribute towards the humanity.

Of course I can’t deny the environmental pressure we face that causes this. But ask yourself this: Me thinking of what you think of me, where is my authenticity there? What is my individual truth in that line thread?

If we pause and reflect for a moment: What if I allow you to be you and me to be me, how would we be living? What kind of interactions we will be having? What conversations we will be having? How our individual truths and humility would pour into our interpersonal relations?

You may think: If I do this, I might lose the people I love. Or I will be abandoned and rejected. Those mental doubts are very normal during the reflection process. They are the mental attachments we developed from childhood that trigger us and control our behaviours today. When they come up, just patiently observe and work with them. They are not meant to sit there without being reflected upon and questioned.

I also like to refer to the many recites in the Holy Book of Quran when Allah always points to the fact: You can’t control people. You can’t manipulate situations to fit your preferences. What you need to do is use your integrity, honesty and authenticity in every situation you cross by. People are people. Situations are situations. But your core heart is the foundation. What is it you beleive in? How you purify your heart? What deeds you individually choose to do? Where you decide to put your mental focus? What really matters in our human living experiences?

At the end, when you say: You is you and me is me, first tensions and resistance would boil up because of our human differences and limitations. But then later you see the interactions get along well. You see yourself having conversations with people who align with your personal values and philosophies. You find your relationships get simple and easy to get along with and maintain.