Unconditional Love

What is unconditional love? This is a term could be new or uncommon for you. It means you interact with yourself and others with full acceptance and wholeheartedly recognising our humanity and imperfections. For example when the interaction has blame and judgement, that is conditional love. But when the conversation has recognition and acceptance even with all the arguments and conflicts, that is unconditional love.

With the current industrial revolution we live in, this term is rarely practiced. If you see a person approaching you with a gift, you would think: What is the payback? There must be something behind this gift. It is not for free. Or when you see people in organizations chatting, a common phrase you would hear is: Just focus on your job description tasks. Don’t go beyond. You won’t be rewarded or recognised. So what’s the point?

People are not to be blamed here. The environment can influence greatly our habits and daily routines. Then I remember this term: Unconditional love. How things could shift in our life if we use this term? How people would be living and interacting with each other? With all our flaws and imperfections, how the conversation could happen when people just accept and see eachother through the heart and soul and not only the mind?

To recognise we are not the same. We all are different in our thinking, feeling and living. We have different preferences, likes, dislikes and dreams. Keeping in mind our human differences may create a way for the unconditional love to appear.

The difficult part in this is our habit to stay, to attach, to hold on and not move on. When I see a person just talks about the past and dwells in sadness and sorrow, that is what I mean by holding on. We hold on to our memories and our set of thinking and scenario interpreting. We define people and put labels on them. We criticize them and judge their behaviours. We make everything about others’ behaviours and actions.

Then when unconditional love comes along, I like to remember this: We exist because we already matter. Our existence in this earth school is not for us to judge and block each other. Our existence here is a test. How we would interact and interrelate with each other? With all our differences emotionally, mentally and psychologically how would we come together as one with full acceptance and open hearts? With all our flaws and imperfections, how can we look into each others’ eyes and say: Yes I see you. I am disappointed but I understand you. I am frustrated but I see where you come from.

I am not convincing you here whether it is conditional or unconditional love. But I encourage you to open your mind and heart to other options and possibilities in the human interaction. Just pause for a moment. If unconditional love was commonly practiced in our modern world, how people would have their daily conversations? How would we resolve our conflicts and arguments? How would we approach each other?