Personal Boundaries

This is something I personally struggle with. But I like learning about it and practicing it in action.

By the way, what is a personal boundary? Well it means to create for yourself a limit when interacting with people or when doing your work or other projects.

The human interactions we have are not just random. You need to understand them and figure out your personal limits around them.

Let me give you an example to clarify what I mean. Let us say you have daily conversations with your best friend. You have no experience with creating your personal boundaries. So your best friend calls you anytime he/she wants. You are there available and present. Then comes times you need space and private time with yourself. However your friend doesn’t understand that. Because you originally haven’t created any boundary. You allowed your friend to approach you and talk to you anytime he/she wishes. Then you feel upset, suppressed, resentful and angry.

The above example clearly shows the need to create personal boundaries for ourselves.

Unfortunately this is something you don’t learn in traditional schools and colleges. But rather it is a self-taught and life skill. You learn it by recognising its importance and doing it in action.

I know practicing personal boundaries can be tough for people pleasers. Because you got used to focusing on others, meeting others’ expectations and keeping your personal needs last.

But I want you to remember this. You also have got needs. You have rights. You also need privacy and space. You need time for yourself. It doesn’t matter if the other person perceives it as rejection or not nice or not appropriate. What matters is you understanding yourself, your values, needs and priorities.