Being with others versus Being on your own

Those terms have got interesting meanings and revolutions. When you are around others, you tend to behave in a certain way and talk in a specific style. When you are with others, you think of their convenience, the context / culture you are in and what you need to do to fit in.

Coming to the other side, when you are on your own, that is a totally different scenario. You act more freely. You are more comfortable in your own skin. Maybe you dance and sing so emotionally. You talk to yourself to express your anger, frustrations, sadness, disappointments or enthusiasm. That is the time your truest self and authenticity comes out.

Now you maybe wondering. What if I be just myself when I am around others too? How will that scenario shift? A lot of thoughts might bubble up here like the fear of rejection, the fear of being judged, the worry of upsetting someone and the thought of something bad going to happen. That is normal if your background never allowed you to be yourself and you never got the permission to just be yourself in the moment.

Being just yourself when you are with others signals interesting meanings and perspectives. It tells: I accept you as you are because I accept myself as I am. I allow you to be yourself and I let me to be me because we are humans. Apart of our humanity is our individuality, our separateness and our uniqueness. When you fall into this idea: Fitting in and be like everyone else, you deny our nature and humanity. You ignore our truest and real human expression.

Another interesting reflection from this valuable piece is appreciating our vulnerability. When you are just yourself when you are with others, it requires you to be very vulnerable, honest and real. It brings you down to your humility and humbleness. It brings up painful suppressed emotions that need space and time to process. It is also a green light confirmation that we are not perfect, we do mistakes, we fall from time to time and we move ahead and go backwards too.

Look at this also using the love or fear lens. Which lens you think could serve you best today? Lovingly accept yourself and others as they really are? Or fearfully fall into your fears and doubts and take in that myth of need to fit in in the society and tribe, conform and be like everyone else?

I let you answer this question for yourself.